Recently two of my friends have left jobs they’d been in for over 5 years and began new careers. One of these people made it a gradual change, the other a relatively sudden one. For both of them it was time to move on and I know they’ve made the right decision to get out of the rut and move on to something new. I’m delighted for them both, but something confused me and I couldn’t quite put my finger on what. Well I’ve sorted it out now – I was confused because I wanted them to go out and do new things while wanting to stay put myself. That didn’t feel right somehow – I’ve always assumed if I’m recommending something for someone else it’s probably because it’s good for everyone, including me. But in this case, it’s not right for me to have a career change, though it was right for them. I’m happy with my job, they weren’t. It’s OK for me not to want what they want.
I had the same feeling when everyone around me was buying Kindles. I didn’t want one but felt like I should because all my friends did.
Perhaps the moral of this post is that changing career is just like buying a Kindle; perhaps it’s that I like to follow my herd; perhaps it’s that I’ve developed enough emotional intelligence to understand what my friends need, what I need and that sometimes they may not be the same. Or perhaps all three are true – take the moral you need, not the one that’s right for me!